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Contact Etiquette

A few basic guidelines for creating and responding to swingers ads.


Please respond to all messages you receive from respondents.

Replying to people you want to meet is easy, but it can be hard to know what to say when turning someone down.

Most people contacting you will have spent time plucking up courage to write to you, and then time thinking of the right thing to say to get you to notice them.

Your reply does not need to be a long letter, a short note saying something along the lines of "Thank you for your response, but you do not match what I am currently looking for, better luck next time" will at least let the respondent know they have failed. I know that I for one check my mail eagerly after I send every response, hoping that someone has written back to me.

If you are an escort advertising for business please advertise only as "paid service". If you are an escort advertising for non paying play friends please use a different profile name and photos from that used for your business.


Always be polite.

Tell the advertiser what you like about their ad.

Tell them how you think you will meet their requirements.

If you enclose a picture show your face - most people like to see the person, rather than a shot of genitalia. If they like the look of you, they will then ask for another picture, a nude one if they want it. (some people do want nude pictures from the start, but they will usually say so in their ad).

Keep the language clean, match your response to the ad. Don't go straight in with a hardcore letter.

If you are turned down by an advertiser, don't keep contacting them - you are not going to make any friends by being a nuisance or abusive. Just move on to the next advertiser. The swingers rule applies here as it does everywhere in the scene, no means NO.

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