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Single Lady Swingers

Single Female Swingers are nicknamed Unicorns, as they can be hard to find.

Welcome, you are the most sought after people in the swinging lifestyle! Single ladies in the swinging scene are called Unicorns, as some people think that they are a myth!

Single Ladies can afford to be choosy, and pick the person or people they want to play with, as a result pushy single males never get a look in. The single girl will be looking for guys who push her buttons. They will be making a first decision based upon the profile of the couple or single guy. Most women are going to be looking for attractive guys who write a full profile with details about themselves and their interests and who has a photo showing most if not all of his body and preferably his face.

When a single lady advertises on a swingers contact site they get hit with hundreds of emails a day, so girls, be prepared to do a lot of reading and guys if your email and photo don't do you justice you will be eliminated at this point. Remember that you only get one chance at making a GOOD first impression.

Ladies, when you place your ad explain exactly what you are looking for, even eye/hair colour, some guys do read the ads before responding, but many just send a standard response to every girl and couple who advertise in the hope that someone somewhere will want them. If you are happy to respond to all the emails say so in the ad, if you will not be responding to some people - those with no photo, those who have brown eyes when you asked for blue etc. - say so in the ad.

Be honest, and keep to your word. Describe yourself accurately. If you are a size 20 say so, don't pretend that you are a size 12-14. Guys are not quite so stupid that on meeting you they will not realize. You will also find that there is a big demand for larger girls.

If you say in your ad that all emails will be answered, answer them, even if just a "no thanks, not this time", many sites such as Couples and Singles have a pre written email, and you simply have to click "no thanks" if you decide you do not want to meet a person.

If you do find someone you want to meet make sure you do so in a safe environment, not at that persons house. Meet in a pub, hotel lounge or swingers club, make sure you are happy with them in a social setting before making arrangements to meet them in private. If they say they are a couple talk to both people on their telephone, make a note of their number - you must make sure that you talk to both of them, do not accept excuses that the partner is late home from work, putting the kids to bed, nursing a dying mother or shagging the local football team, if you cannot talk to them, they probably do not exist, or are not aware of the situation.

When you leave home make sure someone knows where you are going, leave a sealed envelope to be opened if you do not ring in by a certain time, in it put the email addresses, telephone number and location of the meeting, its better to be safe and embarrassed than dead.

Whoever you are going to meet remember that although its scary, the other people will be as nervous as you. Don't get drunk or drugged up. No one fancies people who are not in control of their faculties. A drink to steady the nerves is OK, bouncing off the walls and throwing up is not going to impress anyone.

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